First Date Indicators: Casual or Long-Term?

While it’s tough to figure out where a relationship is headed after a first date, it’s not impossible. There are going to be all kinds of hard-to-read signs that will give you a good idea as to whether this woman is long-term, commitment material or whether she’s casual hookup material. Of course, unless you know how to spot these signs you probably won’t have any idea where things are headed after that first meeting. If you’d like to be able to know what possibilities there are, you need to be able to identify all the first date indicators and interpret what they mean. Fortunately for you, it’s really not all that hard.

She’s Distant

"She doesn't seem interested in you"

“She doesn’t seem interested in you”

You might think that the fact that she constantly checks her phone or avoids eye contact with you is because she’s shy, but chances are that what she’s doing is keeping herself distant from you on purpose. If she really makes no attempt to bond with you or share some things about herself, it’s because she doesn’t think you’re right for her. Instead of forcing yourself to play along until the night is over, you can cut your losses early and call her on it. She’ll either be relieved that you agree that this won’t work or she’ll be horrified that she was so easy to read. Either way, the night will end without any confusion on either of your behalves as to whether a future is a possibility for the both of you. This is a good thing, because without any confusion there won’t be any mess for you to get caught up in.

She’s Energetic

"She is having a great time"

“She is having a great time”

If your date is laughing, smiling, and holding eye contact, it’s clear she’s having a great time. And if you’re laughing, smiling, and staring back, it means that you’re having a good time too. If you’re both energetic and feeding of each other’s enthusiasm, it’s a good indicator that the two of you have some serious chemistry to work on. Of course, there’s always a chance that this chemistry is sexual in nature, but you’ll never know for sure unless you commit to seeing her a couple more times. And if it turns out that the attraction you share for each other goes beyond sex, it means that you just found yourself a partner who might turn into something very special over time.

She’s Direct About Sex

If your date has made no bones about wanting to get home and naked with you, it’s probably a pretty good sign that she’s out for casual sex and casual sex only. If she doesn’t care much for pillow talk or hanging out aside from having sex, it’s a concrete affirmation that she just wants your body and isn’t interested in anything else. While most dudes would love this kind of arrangement, others who are interested in romance aren’t going to be so thrilled. Just remember that a casual sex relationship is in no way going to be permanent, so why not get yours while keeping up the search for a woman you can commit to? You can always bail on your hookup arrangement when you find another lady that you are really attracted to.



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