Dating isn’t easy for everyone, particularly those who have a few insecurities (which is pretty much everyone alive). If you’ve been out of the dating game for a while, it can be even tougher. If you’re recently putting yourself back out there on the market and you’ve got a first date looming, you’re probably either really nervous or really unsure (or both). This doesn’t mean that you’re automatically headed for disaster, however. There are easy ways for you to psych yourself up for a first date to ensure you’re at the top of your game.
Remember She’s Searching Too
It’s easy to feel like a loser because you’ve struck out on love and are still looking for a connection, but you need to remember that you’re date is obviously having the same problem, otherwise she wouldn’t be here. It’s hard not to feel this way if all your friends and family are in committed relationships, but you need to keep in mind that finding a partner that you connect with on all levels is not always easy. In fact, for some people it’s damn hard. There’s no shame in being single, so don’t let that get you down. Turn on the positive thinking-after all, this might be the date that turns your life around, and even if it’s not, you’re at least on the road to finding a woman that’s right for you.
Remember You’re a Great Guy
This woman wouldn’t be dating you if you didn’t appeal to her in some way. You also wouldn’t have friends or past girlfriends if there wasn’t something about you that people really liked. Don’t get down on yourself because of a case of crazy nerves. Instead, focus on what you like about you and what you know other people like about you. For example, if you know your sense of humor strikes people, play it up during the date. You don’t need to go overboard and turn into a stand-up comic, but there’s nothing wrong with highlighting your best aspects.
She’s Probably Nervous Too
There’s a very good possibility that as nervous as you are, your date’s going to be equally or even more so. Remembering this is a great equalizer, as you’re less inclined to stress if you know she’s probably just as anxious as you are. First dates are always going to be just a little bit awkward based on the fact that you probably don’t know a lot about each other, and letting nervousness control you can make the situation even more awkward. If you’re worried about it, just give her a head’s up and confess to how strained you’re feeling. She’ll likely admit the same, which is a great ice breaker and gives you something to talk about.
There Are No Expectations
Unless it was explicitly agreed upon when you set up the date, there are literally no expectations coming out of this. You don’t have to have sex. You don’t have to call her back. You don’t have to take her out again. A first date is just a way to test the waters to see if there’s any compatibility. If there’s not, don’t stress about living up to any expectations you think might be there, because there are none. You’re good to move on start looking for another romantic match.