What to Do When She Doesn’t Look like Her Pics

"It happens! Sometimes a profile pic can be misleading"

“It happens! Sometimes a profile pic can be misleading”

This is one of the worst things that can happen to you when you’re using casual dating sites. You saw a beautiful woman on the site of your choosing and you messaged her right away to try and set up a meeting with her. To your delight, she responded and you hit it off. When you finally meet up with her, though, you’re in for an unpleasant surprise – she doesn’t really look like she did in her pictures. Maybe she’s gained quite a bit of weight, or gotten an unfortunate haircut – maybe she used pictures that weren’t even hers at all! It’s not pleasant no matter what the specifics are, but what’s a guy to do when this happens? You might be at a total loss, but that’s what we’re here for. You don’t need to feel lost anymore. Here’s what you need to know about what to do if she doesn’t look like she did in her pictures:

Decide if It’s Worth Worrying About

"It is not that bad of a situation. It could be worse"

“It is not that bad of a situation. It could be worse”

First of all, you need to decide if this is really worth getting worked up over. We know you’ve probably used outdated pictures on your profiles before, so is it that big of a deal that she did the same thing? If she just seems to have gained a little bit of weight or gotten an awkward haircut since her pictures were taken, it’s probably not that big of a deal. Of course, if she looks like an entirely different person then that’s a totally different matter. Think about it carefully and try to decide if it’s really worth raising a fuss over. Sure, she may not look like the supermodel she appeared to be in her pics, but she’s probably still pretty, right? Try to think if it’s worth raising a fuss over or not.

Taming Your Reaction

"Control your reaction"

“Control your reaction”

Reacting poorly when you see her for the first time can ruin your chances at actually hooking up with her, whether or not you still want to. If she doesn’t look like her photos, don’t immediately blurt out that she’s gained a ton of weight. Try to force a pleasant smile and wait until the shock passes. It’s probably not that big of a deal, but if you make it into one then you can be sure you won’t get to hook up with her.

Deciding if You Want to Bail

Sometimes she just doesn’t look anything like what you expected. Maybe she even used someone else’s pictures. This isn’t a good thing, and it can definitely be upsetting. If she looks completely different, it may be time to bail. After all, she could be a scammer or she could be trying to pull one over on you. It’s not a good position to be in, so it may be time for you to gracefully bow out or find a way to get out of there before she tries to hook up with you. Just don’t be too obvious about the fact that you’re running for freedom.



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