This happens more often than you think, and it is something you’re going to want to be prepared for. You’ve hit it off with the woman you decided to hook up with, but the problem is that you may have hit it off slightly too well. Suddenly she seems a bit too interested in your daily life, and she wants to see you more and more often. Before you know it, she’s confessed – she’s fallen in love with you. This is probably an unpleasant shock, and it may have been the exact opposite of what you were looking for in the relationship. What are you supposed to do? Well, you don’t want to be left floundering and gaping uselessly if this happens, which is why we’re here to help. Here’s what you need to know if your hookup partner suddenly falls in love with you.
Try to Figure out if you Reciprocate
First things first, you need to decide if you return her feelings at all. We know that you probably signed up for the site under the impression that you would just have a casual hookup with no strings attached, or a casual relationship that wasn’t meant to go anywhere. That’s a given. But do you feel the same way about her now that she’s told you she has feelings for you? If you do, then it may be something worth exploring with her. Sure, it wasn’t what you originally wanted or expected, but sometimes these things just happen! If you don’t reciprocate her feelings and you don’t want to pursue a relationship with her, you obviously need to take some steps to figure out what to do.
Try to Distance Yourself from Her
One of the first things you want to do is try to distance yourself from her. Even if she has feelings for you, she may not want to pursue a relationship either. She may just want to continue the casual relationship that you had, but you need to figure that out. Either way, you should try to stop spending so much time with her. Don’t go out of your way to see her and don’t take her out on any dates. Distancing yourself may be enough to make her feelings fade, or it may be enough to get her to move on.
Moving on and Breaking it off
Sometimes she’s just not going to let it go. If the woman you were hooking up with has developed feelings for you and you don’t think she’s going to be able to continue the relationship casually, it’s time to move on. Break it to her gently and let her know that you won’t be seeing her any longer. It’s for the best, and she should be able to understand your feelings. It’s time to get back to the drawing board and hit the hookup sites again, hopefully this time with better results. Don’t let it discourage you, though – there are plenty of women for you to spend time with.